With Father’s Day quickly approaching, I can’t help but reflect on the man I have the privilege to call, “Dad.”
If you’re new to our Contact Mapping community, then you might not know this wild dream was started by a father/son duo. Tom, my father, IS Contact Mapping in a human form.
Before we developed the app, it was Tom who unwaveringly built, maintained, and nurtured relationships with thousands of people in his pre-Internet and post-Internet life.
It was my dad who instilled in me the desire to connect meaningfully with others—not because it is good business practice—but because it is a necessary LIFE practice.
My dad taught me to listen well and ask good questions, while never forgetting the importance of the follow-up—not as a way to avoid feelings of guilt or shame—but because it is a powerful tool to show people they matter.
It is Tom’s habits and behaviors that we’ve tried to capture in the Contact Mapping app—giving anyone and every one the superpower to build meaningful relationships the way he does.
But there’s another part of Tom many don’t see—quite possibly one of the greatest parts. This part of Tom doesn’t show up in sales numbers, or radio show followers, or on his monthly bottom line. But it is this part that makes my dad a treasured gift to me and hundreds of others.
Tom is a champion of the underdog. Not just the underdog in a championship game where two teams have already established their greatness. Tom is a champion of LIFE’s underdogs—the addicts, the homeless, those people who are simply down on their luck.
Tom’s uncanny ability to see, hear, and help the people in the margins—the ones many of us turn a blind eye to—is arguably his most incredible superpower.
While network marketers and conference goers and business people everywhere are drawn to Tom’s unabashed candor and humorous antics, I believe it’s my dad’s quiet and persistent heart for the marginalized that propels him to greatness.
Tom understands that all of us are just one bad decision away from being in their shoes. This humble realization is both what grounds him and motivates him to live a life that is fueled by loving and caring for others.
This week, our newsletter message is simple: Care well for others. Even when—especially when—they can’t offer you anything in return.
THE SCIENCE BEHIND CARING FOR OTHERS
This newsletter isn't just about Tom, it's about you. More specifically, it’s about delivering practical and proven tips and strategies you can use to have life-changing experiences like Tom.
The reality is, Tom’s heart for others—while driven by genuine intentions—does have remarkable health benefits. Studies have shown that when we care for others—either as a full or part-time caregiver (or in seemingly small ways)—we experience the following health benefits:
We live longer: This study shows that people who cared for others had a longer lifespan than those who didn’t.
Kindness is Contagious: This study shows how quickly acts of kindness can spread. Be the catalyst for this kindness train and experience the contagiously caring web you’ve helped create.
Caring Makes us Happier: As we talked about last week, we feel better when we are helping others and this decreases the feelings of depression and anxiety.
Gives Us Purpose: When you feel needed, you have a greater sense of purpose. By caring for others you recognize how valued and treasured you are by those you’re serving (whether or not they can express their gratitude).
Lower Blood Pressure: Several studies have found that adults who consistently care for others experience lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of hypertension.
How about this week we channel our inner Tom—open our eyes to people in need, tune our ears to those who need to be heard, and use our hands to offer tangible help.
By focusing our time and attention on others, we will not only reap the health benefits, but we will also become superconnectors.
Happy Father’s Day to the fellow Dad’s out there!
May your jokes be corny, may your dance moves be awkward, and may your style be perplexing.